This Way of Thinking Actually Repels Money
Years ago, when I started working on my finances, one of the first things I did made a big difference in everything I did after that.
What was it? I made an effort to catch my negative thinking. And flip it.
But first the reporter in me had to know why, and how that even helps. The reason is—and there’s plenty of research to back this up—we create our own reality by the thoughts we think. Our thoughts lead to our actions and our actions lead to our results.
Negative thinking leads to negative results.
In fact, you might be able to see a pattern if you think about some of the outcomes you’ve had in the past week. What were the thoughts or emotions you had about something before the outcome? Were you excited and gung-ho, and/or knew without a doubt it would turn out well for you? Or did you have some doubts and maybe you put in less effort? We’re often not aware that we do this—put in the effort that corresponds with what we feel or expect. When we 100% expect a good outcome, we give 100% to the effort, and may even go the extra mile. When we don’t, we don’t. Then of course, we get the result we expected (also known as self-fulfilling prophecy). Often, the beliefs we have run deep, coming from our childhood, and they’re hidden from our conscious awareness.
For example, if you see yourself as someone who is always broke, you are less likely to boldly go after a client, or project or promotion that could change your life. You just won’t see it for yourself and therefore won’t put much effort into it, if any. Even if you do go after that client or promotion, you may not keep it because those beliefs you hold may keep telling you that this amount of money and success isn’t for you.
Which is why paying attention to your words gives you a chance to turn things around (It made a huge difference for me). Those thoughts are your clue to what hidden beliefs you hold.
If you hear yourself say “I’m always broke,” or “I’ll never be rich” or “money is stressful,” you know you have negative beliefs about money floating around.
And that’s your cue to grab it. Grab that thought. Stop it in its tracks.
(And be happy if you catch it, because this means you’re aware. Awareness is your best friend when you’re trying to create change in your life. Especially a positive change like having a better relationship with money).
Otherwise, unchecked, negative money thoughts will wreak havoc on your goals.
What we repeatedly do and think becomes habit. It becomes our pattern. It becomes the info our brain uses to keep us safe (that’s its job). Most everything we do is habitual. The way we handle money, the way we communicate, the way we are in relationships. Our brain likes shortcuts, and habits are shortcuts. That’s how it conserves calories. It likes to grab info we used for a prior experience or decision and run with it. So whatever you’ve done a thousand times before, your brain will do again and keep doing a thousand times more. (Until your mindset shifts, that is).
Negative money thoughts can tell your brain that money is not safe and to repel it. For example, by creating physical and mental symptoms that make having more money feel not right to you. And then you may act on it without realizing it—feeling too uneasy to accept a great job, client or promotion or by spending your cash quickly on stuff you don’t need just to get rid of it.
At the same time, it’s extremely difficult to think positively about money when you’re really stressed about it, and most people are.
But the first step to turning it around is to catch your thoughts and words. Your first clue to your beliefs. And then try to shift how you see money.
If you see it as tool, rather than a stressor, you can start to focus on how you can use it to create the life you want.
When you change your focus to what you want, instead of what is or what you don’t want, your actions and results change too.
Habits are changeable. They’re also powerful. So it’s worth making time to tap into that power to support you and the life you really want.
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A challenge: For the next 3 days, try to catch any negative thoughts you have about money and flip them to reflect what you want to be true. You can even preface it with “This is what I want to be true.” This starts the process of re-wiring your brain for a healthier relationship with money, so you can attract more of it.
In the comments below, let us know if this exercise helped you, or feel free to share your experiences. We’d love to hear from you.
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